Tuesday, July 14, 2009

N.Dan's Near Death Experience

One day closer to oblivion. And someone is always beating us to it!

Neighbor Dan has been hibernating up in Michigan for years now. You may recall the blog posts I wrote relating the misadventures of the aged ladies from his nursing home. (To read about the fabulous Bag Balm Betty and the lot, click the "nursing home" label at the bottom of this post).

Most recently, Dan was hired to live with a woman whose kidneys were failing. Her name was Maho and he lived in her home at every her beck and call. There were a lot of becks and calls! And when she found out he didn't have a girlfriend, Maho said, "You're not one of those homosexuals, are you?"

To which he politely responded, no! Most likely while fielding text-messages from his boyfriend.

Maho was very demanding and when Dan began, her kidneys were definitely going to last longer than he would in her employ. But as Maho withered, she gradually grew on Dan. They bird-watched together, and she loved her gin so they did share something in common.

Dan served her gin from this giant dispenser she kept in her kitchen. Kind of makes you wonder why the kidneys went instead of the liver.
Hydration at the ready!

Dan came to love Maho and her gin dispenser, and her cat. He then discovered from her family that Maho's own brother was one of those homosexuals, and that he only came out of the closet in his suicide note.

Soon the pain became too much and Maho began to spiral. Her morphine was upped to 9 mg/hr and her breathing slowed to only 5 respirations per minute. When she gasped her last breathe, Dan was the only person with her. He says it was weird and humbling and fascinating to have connected with such a lady for her final weeks on earth.

2 comments:

Don said...

Sounds like this connection was a very meaningful one for all concerned. Thanks Jesse.
Don

Tony said...

Hey Jesse -

It's pretty humbling to read about your friend Neighbor Dan. Sure he was being paid to take care of Maho, but it takes an unusual person to choose that kind of work in the first place.

I just wonder: if Maho had known that Dan was "one of those," and if she could acknowledge, if only to herself, the loving care he gave her, would she, could she have viewed her brother's life and death differently?