Sunday, August 24, 2008

The Faggot Nigger Debate

So I'm up in Hell's Kitchen lastnight, among the heavy post-theatre crowds, waiting for a light. A black man (why is it always a minority?) walking the other direction, glances my way, yells "Fag!" and then laughs.

Although I eagerly await the day I can let insults like this roll like water off a duck's back, I am reminded too much of those awful junior high days. It's still the same. Life is like one big junior high. The difference is now I holler back.

"You're UGLY!" I yell. "UUUUUGLY!!!" And this is always the way I return an insult. It's never racial, which it probably should be, but that's just far too easy. So I call them ugly, because they are.

At this point, another black man (unrelated) comes up and asks me, curiously, "Why are you calling that guy ugly?"

I say, "Because he called me a fag."
He asks, "Are you a fag?"
I tell him I'm gay.

"So why do you have a problem with him calling you a fag?" he asks all non-chalant.

"Because it's disrespectful," I answer calmly. "It's like if I called you a nigger."

And I swear, the word nigger was not even out of my mouth before his fists were in my face, and he was furiously screaming about how he was gonna kick my ass.

I'd say he brilliantly (albeit without intelligence) illustrated my point.

12 comments:

Edina Monsoon said...

Darling, the first Black Chap was probably English (or from The Colonies). He saw you with an unlit cigarette dangling from your pouty lips and uttered "Fag" to call upon someone to light it for you.

The 2nd Black Chap (the one who fisted your face) was most likely filming a Reality TV Show. Nowadays I find that any loud public encounters in Manhattan with strangers have a TV crew not far behind.

xx

Eds

Steven said...

Further proof that the word fag is still the most accepted demeaning insult in the world.

God forbid if you say nigger, 'cause them's fightin' words.

It's probably because people still think a fag won't do anything about it since they're 'weak' which is an idiotic proposition since a fag can kick anyone's ass.

Patrick said...

i would have kicked that guy's ass for you, Jesse!

justyn kristophe said...

Hey Jesse. I read your blog all of the time. Love it! To add: I too agree with you on the double standard. The discrinated become the discriminators. Ironic ehh! Ghetto people or hilljacks from the sticks never surprise me. I'm Black/Puerto Rican and gay. There's three strikes against me. Ha! But people always seem to hold racial slurs in a different regard than other HATE speech. It's virtually the same but on different levels. If I'm a fag "a weak, pathetic lowlife man," then you, the angry blk man are a "dirty person" (i.e. nigger). We're even Steven; aren't we?! It's so funny! They are always the one's who start it and not us!

Justyn

Z said...

Terrible! Hope you are OK! We don't want your pretty to be ruined. These people are awful!

Anonymous said...

Never mind the fact that I have to hear the same people screaming the word nigger at each other at the top of their lungs on the J, M, Z train everyday.

Then you use it to make a point and the fucker gets in your face about it.

That was the most laughable thing about Rev. Wright saying "Hillary ain't ever been called a nigga!"

Doesn't he know most of the people using the word are black and hispanic teens on the subways after getting out of school at 3 p.m.?

Stupid fuck.

Of course everybody knows this is a fact but is afraid to say so.

You said...

You're not the kind of fag who uses the N-word!

OMG, such an interesting dilemma! I'm curious about how the second encounter resolved? I'm imagining a Jewish man trying to intervene and the two of you shouting in unison, "Shut up, Kike!"

Anonymous said...

Jesse,

Unfortunately, many minorities are raised thinking it is alright to insult white people. Many white liberals also subscribe to this bullshit. All people of all races need to bury their racism.

xoxo Your friend Jimmy

Dtown~S said...

I had the same conversation with a Grade 8 student who was black and used the word "fag" in class. I told him not to say that and he responded, "but it's just a word." I then asked him how he would feel if I used the N-word like it was "just a word", and he didn't know what to say. Unlike the guy on the street, my point was taken.

Anonymous said...

Ok,, as soon as the man ask you "why did you call the guy ugly?" ... it seems he was just trying to set you up... He stepped into your business and your space,, and why? Most of the time I just walk away from people that are biggoted... they are so ignorant.. it's like reasoning with a drunk,, or I will pick up a knife! ( that always works!)

Stephen M

Rebekka in Cheeseland said...

Insane, Jesse - and although terribly frustrating and sad, a story worth telling. What's wrong with people? Why does everyone have to be the same? People should be grateful for the variety and multitude life and humanity offers. Well done Dahling!

yet another black guy said...

1) Both of those morons exhibited ridiculous ironic attitudes in light of the discrimination that blacks have faced since being brought to America.

2) Why is every comment NOT mentioning that gays (like blacks) have taken to using a derogatory names as terms of endearment. It truly is not the word, but who uses it, no?